Surviving the trauma of my family

Surviving the trauma of my family

I remember the day when one of my friends made the decision to stand up for me by telling his mom about my abuse. As a result, my adoptive mom called an emergency family meeting where they interrogated me as my grandfather sat directly across from me. They questioned why I never cried or screamed, as if that was the only way to prove the abuse I endured. When he denied it, everyone left... and I felt my stomach drop to the floor.

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How my daughter saved me from a mental health breakdown

How my daughter saved me from a mental health breakdown

But even with an amazing therapist… I still didn't feel "right." My heart would feel like it was going to burst, rendering me unable to catch my breath. Eventually, I lost interest in my studies and dropped out of school at age 15. I didn't care about anything, not school, my family, or my future. I didn't have anything or anyone to give me hope...until the birth of my daughter.

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Protect Your Energy: Healing from Abuse & Becoming Your Best Self

Protect Your Energy: Healing from Abuse & Becoming Your Best Self

It's easy to hide our shame and hurt in the shadows as we grow accustomed to wearing masks to convince others that we're "fine." All the while, we're carrying pasts of abuse, suicidal thoughts, and mental illness. But Ka'Lyn Banks-Coghill isn't silencing her pain any longer. Check out her interview about how she addresses her childhood trauma and leads a full life with mental illness.

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ep 10 Sex Ed Crash Course

ep 10 Sex Ed Crash Course

Amanda Nicholson, a licensed therapist specializing in sexual trauma, joins AFFIRM to give a Sex Ed Crash Course on everything we missed from our awkward 'abstinence only' health classes.  Amanda shares her knowledge about consent, different forms of intimacy, and steps to begin healing from a past sexual assault. Take a listen.

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Letters to my Ex: Choosing myself

I don’t know what made me fall for him. He was a culmination of everything I never asked for and for some odd reason; it was strangely comforting to me. 

Within a few months, I let my guard down and granted him entry into the most vulnerable places of my world. And as quickly as we allowed our lives to intertwine, it was over.

It was over.

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